Parents in law
Where several people live together, there always are problems. Particularly
then if several generations live under one roof, this can get rapid at expense
for the partner related by marriage. This doesn't have to adapt only at the
new life with its partner, it also must adapt to the parents. When the pair
doesn't live with the parents, it often comes to discrepancies, but too.
Parents frequently cling to their daughter or their son. You cannot let their
child off. They are often jealous opposite the companion of the child. You
are afraid to pass their child on to its partner and to lose it through this.
This is problematic particularly then if the child was the only purpose in
life of the parents till now.
Today's parents-in-law are, however, modern, they frequently feel a fulfilled
life themselves and by the modern communication techniques they don't immediately
have to appear in the apartment or house to learn how their child is. You can
contact their children rapidly by telephone or e-mail. The problems begin,
however, if the parents interfere in the relation of their children with their
perhaps well-meant but nevertheless unwelcome advice. One needs good nerves
to bear this over a longer time period.
But also the children must be able to let the narrow relationship off to their
parents. Already those of this have done and have moved before their own marriage,
have taken a large step in this direction children. If the pair already lives
in a common apartment, in the evening, which rapidly over, however, still drives
one partners to the eating to its parents before it drives partners to his
home, it hasn't come loose of the parental home yet. The other partner who
as a rule suffers from it must talk with his companion through life about it.
The parental proximity of his partner "gets" too many him also if.
One cannot choose the parents-in-law but with a couple of tips the relation
to these can be improved.
It is advisable just after the marriage to fix the rules of the game of the
living together. Later, it will be more difficult to change these again. In
addition, the parents-in-law don't get younger, older people change according
to tendency no longer so lightly. The parents must respect the privacy of the
pair. The parents shouldn't behave like rivals opposite the partner of their
child in which they try to get the only attention of their child. The marriage
of one's own should be in priority before the relation to the parents. Who
accepts greater financial support of the parents also must expect a dependence.
The purchase of a house, apartment or cars can cement the position of power
of the parents. Babysitting but just as frequently or domestic help contribute
to an increased say.
There almost are problems in all respects. These should, however, be first
cleared with the partner before one addresses his parents. But in no case one
should make the partner bad in front of the parents. The parents of one's own
can look at the problems really objectively only with difficulty. If the relation
to the parents-in-law is irreparable, it recommends to go himself onto distance.
One should, however, never forbid its partner the contact to his parents. The
grandma grandpa grandchild relation mustn't as well suffer from the discrepancies
between parents and grandparents. The grandparents grandchild relation is something
special, the grandchildren may not be robbed of this experience because of
the disputes.
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